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Basically, the old days used to be a situation of people ending up in various fraternities and clubs. Moose Lodge, Elk Lodge, etc. Women had their own such as book club, etc. There are car clubs, etc.
Meetup.com basically helps you find a ton of groups. However you can generally find groups without the website by going to a shop that sells stuff that you enjoy. So if you like kayaking or hiking or rock climbing or what not, go to a place that sells sporting goods. Ask someone if they have some info on some clubs that do that kind of stuff in the area. Usually they will have something. Even Hobby Lobby. Sewing supply shops will have sewing and quilting groups.
Other times you can just go where people are doing a thing. So if you like working out and want to find a work out pal, go work out at the gym and talk to people. Learn some things, help some people, etc. If you like indoor rock climbing you go to a place that does it and get to know people and get their numbers.
People don’t really freak out about getting their numbers IF you have established some kind of reputation with them through talking with them. They need to know that you have similar interests, are not frustrating to be around, and that you won’t skin them and wear it as a hat.
A lot of times in the old days this stuff would be through churches. People also used to be more communal. So this stuff was all pretty standard to know about.
I found people to play pool with by playing pool somewhere. Then we got talking about other stuff and then became friends.
Work friends it seems to not work out very often unless you have a very in common thing. Reason being is because people tend to have a life outside of work already such as family. Kids take up time, wives take up time, maintenance on the house and vehicles and life take time.
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NOTES
- Active vs Passive
- hobbies, interests, activities,
- personal, social, entertainment, work
- indoors vs outdoors
- group size
- mental vs physical
- consume, interact, produce/create
- relax vs do things